What Are Your Thoughts on Christian Men Having a Vasectomy
1: This is an issue that is very personal, between a couple and their Lord..and it appears that alot of people are contemplating one. I am not trying to persuade you either way, I am not a pastor or a counselor, I am just one Christian dad and I am just giving my two cents 🙂
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A reader asks me this question. “What are your thoughts on Christian men having a vasectomy?”
Well, it’s better than abortion! That is my initial reaction, but I am sure that is not what the reader was asking me. 🙂
This is a very touchy subject. For one, there are some special circumstances to consider. Second we live in a postmodern world and even Christians have fallen prey to the postmodern mentality: “Do what you think is best for you and your family.” That is a far cry from my answer. No, that is the answer of our world that says we should do what we think is best, what feels good, what fits with our lifestyles. Let me just say; what you think is best is not necessarily what is best.
First off, if you simply want a vasectomy so you can cheat on your spouse without fear of an illegitimate child, then that is purely sinful and should not require any further clarification. Likewise, if you want a vasectomy to simply stop having children in your marriage then that is also sinful. You might think this is best…but it is against Gods will for marriage.
I do believe that vasectomy is permissible in some cases. For instance, I know a man whose wife almost died twice during childbirth. She was ordered to not have any more children as she would not likely survive another pregnancy. He had a vasectomy to save his wife…I do not think this is wrong. At the risk of sounding vulgar, if he did not have a vasectomy, sex for them would be like playing with a loaded gun. Pregnancy would most likely kill his wife, or result in the death of the child through abortion. So it is better to induce sterilization than to cause death either by abortion or by pregnancy. In this case it certainly is justified for a Christian man to have a vasectomy.
Is it ok to have a vasectomy if you are having trouble financially? What if you are already living paycheck to paycheck? What if you were unemployed? What if you live in a poverty stricken area and cannot afford to feed your family? Wouldn’t having a child just put added pressure on you, your family and your marriage? In this instance I have to say that having a vasectomy is sinful. Why? If you are a Christian you believe that God providentially cares for his covenant people, don’t you? If we all waited for financial stability not many of us would ever have kids. To have a vasectomy in this instance is sinful.
What about those who have children and have reached the age of 30-ish and feel that they have “been fruitful” enough? I certainly believe that this is not a good reason for vasectomy. Dr. W.G. de Vries proclaims:
“Women with two or at most three children think they have done their share. They let themselves or their husbands be sterilized so that they can “confidently” enjoy the pleasures of sexual life. They are indeed eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of man, rather than for the sake of the Kingdom of Heaven.”
The kingdom of man. Is that why you want a vasectomy? If you are considering vasectomy is it because you are lazy? Is it because you want to have freedom of sex without having children? So your wife can focus on advancement at work to increase your standard of living? Maybe having more children means that your wife will have to quit her job and your standard of living will decrease dramatically. This says that you do not trust in God’s providential care, it says that you place pleasure and this life above God and the kingdom of heaven.
Vasectomy may in itself not be wrong or right. The motives and circumstances must be taken into account. Having a vasectomy is wrong if it is for self-convenience. With my view of scripture, in only one type of case should vasectomy be permissible for a Christian. For medical reasons; if pregnancy would threaten the life of the mother, or so severely disable her for life that she would not be able to fulfill her duty in the family, there is then a reason for preventing pregnancy. As an alternate to contraceptives and especially abortion…sterilization is the best course of action. Any other reason, in my mind, is purely sinful. But of course I encourage you to speak up if you disagree with me, after all I am simply a blogger!
As a reformed Christians I believe in the 5 sola’s of the reformation. One of which is Soli Deo Gloria. If you read this blog you know how much importance I put on this…the glory of God alone. Everything I do, every decision I make, I weigh on this question: Does this glorify God? Or will this glorify God? Or how does this glorify God? So when I look at men today, having “vasectomy on demand” to simply permit their lavish lifestyles or to sleep in on Saturdays or to have an “easier life,” I know that God is certainly displeased because this does not glorify God. In fact it does the opposite by refusing to trust in God alone. In this instance a vasectomy certainly does not glorify God.
So on a personal note…Some people would ask, “What about you?” You are in your mid 30’s and have 2 kids and your wife works. Is it not time for you to also have one? Shouldn’t you focus on your job and your future? Yes we have endured financial hardship due to mistakes made in our youth. Yes I like sleep and would not mind financial freedom. But my response to you is that I would give up my job for another child. I would give up my wife’s job for another child. I would give up both jobs., I would give up my tv and my house and my van and this blog and my computer, and I would eat Kraft dinner for another child. I would give up sleep for another child! If it is God’s will to bless us with another child… I will rejoice. I will rejoice in the midst of financial hardship. I will rejoice in the midst of sleep deprivation. I will rejoice, because my Lord is good, and in His goodness He has seen fit to bless my family with another child. You see, I thought Teresa and I were unable to have children for the first 5 years of our marriage, so perhaps I have a different perspective on kids than most people. Children are a blessing from God and he will providentially provide for my family, and yours.
So I am not entirely sure I answered the question. But in the end I do believe it all comes down to matter of how we view the sovereign providence of God, and how much trust we place in His promises.
I accept your thoughts and comments! 🙂
25 “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? 26 Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? 27 Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life[e]?
28 “And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. 29 Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. 30 If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith? 31 So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ 32 For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. 33 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. 34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.