Secret Sexual Sin.

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  1. Anon says:

    Most men won’t admit struggling with any sin, but you publish it for the world to see. You are an anomaly but because of it you have credibility. Thank you for what you are doing. May Jesus continue to bless you.

  2. You might feel like you’re the only person who feels like they have this problem, but think about it, there is a huge industry out there providing this material. Do you really think they are doing that for you? OCD is correct (I think), there are many within the church(es) who struggle with this problem (I know I do), Some men may struggle but say nothing because they would “miss” the very thing that they find personally gratifying, others hate the thought of how those around them will respond, again, a selfish response. It isn’t about you, it’s about what God would have you do. Look for the person that you trust with all your heart, most likely a person of the same sex (women have this problem too), and talk to them. Believe me, it’s much better to be the one initiating a discussion of a personal weakness then to have it pointed out by others (who have very likely discussed it before coming to you).
    Perhaps an anonymous Christo Centric website would be a blessing for those who are seeking help. Maybe there’s one out there already, I’m not sure, the thought just came to me. 🙂
    Thanks again OCD.

  3. Buddy says:

    I hate myself. I am stuck in a trap and I cant get out. I need help. I cannot get out. Please pray for me. I don’t trust anyone, not my pastor, not you one christian dad, not anyone. I am going to lose, I know it, I do not want to lose. What do I do

  4. Jordan says:

    I must recommend settingthecaptivesfree.com, I know of 2 Can refers who have gone through the course, I am going through it as well. It is called “the way of purity” It is a very biblical approach and has worked for many people. It is challenging and tough at times, it holds you accountable.as the saying goes though, no pain no gain.

  5. Jordan says:

    Also Ryan, what do you think young can do or go to if they struggle alone? from my experience Most christians dont want to help carry this burden, so at midnight when a young man is struggling, what is he to do. every attempt has been made to block internet access on the iphone and yet still somehow there is a way to get to it.

    • Most Christians do not want to talk about it, and those who struggle with it fear being ostracised or excommunicated. Sadly this is the case for many men and women in the church. A person who is trapped in this sin, or any sinful addiction for that matter, fears going public and seeking that help that comes from a loving supportive community of believers. I believe that in Christ we can overcome any sin or addiction, and that he gives us other believers to hold us accountable, support us and encourage us in his strength. I also think that joining a 12 step group like SA is a good idea. With a 12 step group you will get a sponsor who you can talk to at any time. I would love to see more reformed programs.

      • The problem might be the “help that comes from a loving supportive community of believers”. I would love to know what that looks like. I think I know where “Buddy” might be coming from, and for me it’s been in excess of 12 years of recognition. I can tell him it dulls over time, but then there are moments of intensity. Recognize when and where those moments might occur, and try to not let them happen, or find a distraction.
        I think I recognize some that may have a problem, but don’t want to, or can’t admit it because of external and internal pressures. I’m not sure, but I think that going for help might be psychologically, personally, and spiritually be far easier/better, than being confronted. The latter could create a wall of hatred towards those who are confronting you, because, after all, they aren’t perfect either..

        • Oh I agree Henry. A person has to want to get better, but on the flipside, we are called to admonish and discipline out of love according to Matthew 18. I would never take a group of people to confront someone, but my conscious would not let me sit idly by. If I know that someone has a problem, and that person is a brother or sister in Christ, then it is my duty to stand by him or her and walk side by side with them. We are called to suffer for Christ’s sake, and part of that is suffering with our brothers and sisters. there are a couple members of my church, and a a few from different churches, who I am suffering with, for various issues not just porn.They know that they can call, email or message me at anytime of the day, because it is what I am called by our Lord to do. It is not always easy, I admit that, sometimes I sin when I look at the call display 🙂 But that is ok, I rejoice that I am counted worthy to suffer for his name, for the up building of my brother and sisters in Christ. I know that I am not the only one… but I certainly hope there are more than just the few I am aware of.